'Seek not for love,
but merely seek for all the barriers
you have built against it.'
Rumi
You don't have to seek
Self-love.
I just thought that word was so boring, outdated,
and I truly did not know how that thing called self-love would ever solve my problems.
I could not have been more wrong.
Back then.
It turned out to be the breakthrough in my awakening process.
Self-love helped me raise my frequency,
where I could meet the frequency of Source,
the frequency of my True Divine Essence.
And then truly everything began to shift.
Self-love.
It is not a thing.
It is a frequency.
It is the frequency we were made with.
So instead of searching out there...
In relationships.
In success.
In achievement.
In being seen.
In being chosen.
In being understood.
I am learning more and more that it is truly something different.
So, my question to you bis:
Where are you looking for Love right now?
I can tell you this:
What we are truly searching for is much closer than we realize.
Beneath all those desires lives a deeper longing:
the longing to come Home to ourselves.
This exploration is an invitation to rediscover the relationship beneath everything.
The relationship you have with yourself.
With the whole of you.
With all of you.
Not only with the parts of you that feel confident, aligned and open.
But also with the parts that feel afraid.
The parts that feel rejected.
The parts that learned to survive.
Healing begins when every part of you is allowed to belong.
And every part so deserves to be loved.
You deserve to be loved.
To be self-loved,
because no one can do that better than you. ;-)
Looking for Love
I thought I was looking for Love.
Now I know I wasn't.
At least, not in the way I understand it now.
I was looking for safety.
For reassurance.
For belonging.
For someone to tell me I was okay.
For someone to choose me.
For someone to stay.
For someone to make me feel whole.
And because I did not know that,
I looked for those things outside of myself.
In relationships.
In work.
In achievement.
In helping others.
In being useful.
In being needed.
In being seen.
And every time I found a little bit of it,
it felt good.
For a while.
And then it disappeared again.
So I kept searching.
The next thing.
The next person.
The next achievement.
The next experience.
Always believing that what I was looking for was somewhere outside of me.
Now I know (it took a while, but better late than never, I figured ;-)):
What I was really looking for
was not another person.
Not more success.
Not more approval.
I was looking for a feeling.
A feeling of safety.
A feeling of connection.
A feeling of belonging.
A feeling of Love.
And feelings do not live outside of us.
They live within us.
That was a huge shift for me.
Because if what I am looking for is a feeling,
then no person can truly give it to me.
No circumstance can truly give it to me.
No achievement can truly give it to me.
They can trigger it.
Reflect it.
Awaken it.
But the feeling itself
has always been within me.
Loving myself for that,
for the deep inner knowing that I already am all of it.
I am all of it beyond the noise of the ego;
there is this vastness of my energyfield,
that is pure presence,
pure Love.
and deeply connected to my Source.
This connection is for me self-love.
And from that energy, my energyfield expands,
and in that awareness every part of me that got stuck somewhere down the road
start to come Home.
In self-love.
In that frequency.
Maybe that quiet longing is not a problem that needs solving. Maybe it is a remembrance that there is more.
The signal
And then,
my point of no return arrived.
Big time.
It was a huge inner shift.
I felt it.
I knew it.
But it was also too big to handle.
At that point.
Life started shaking things up.
I did not know what to make of it.
From the outside,
it looked like crisis,
confusion
or instability.
And oh boy,
for that survival layer within me,
it absolutely was.
Yet there was also another layer in me.
A layer that held me.
A layer from which I was constantly reassured.
Keep going.
Keep going.
Own it all within you.
Own it all within you.
Every fear.
Every trigger.
Own it.
Keep going.
You are on your path.
It was my Higher Self waking up my human self.
Wake up from the dream.
So I know from my own experience
that this quiet longing for more
is never there to disturb you.
It is part of your plan.
Part of your prenatal contract.
And this is the signal.
It is your breadcrumb.
A deeper consciousness within us,
trying to guide us back toward ourselves.
And of course,
life itself is helping with that process.
In every moment.
In every aspect.
Everything is for you.
All the relationships.
The triggers.
The discomfort.
The longing.
The breakdowns.
They are all here to support you
in becoming what you truly came here to be.
Fear & discomfort
That process can feel incredibly uncomfortable.
Because the moment we begin sensing
that there may be more
beyond the familiar structures of life...
fear often appears too.
Fear of change.
Fear of losing certainty.
Fear of stepping outside
what we learned to call “normal”.
Our survival system
wants to hold on to the familiar.
Even when the familiar hurts us.
And maybe that is why
so many people never truly look deeper.
We keep chasing the next moment.
The next goal.
The next relationship.
The next form of fulfillment.
Hoping peace
will finally be found there.
But fear itself is really the doorway.
Because if it did not feel uncomfortable,
would we ever start looking?
Searching?
Opening up?
Probably not.
The illusion of separation
I believed safety existed outside of me.
In certainty.
In control.
In knowing where life was going.
And my human mind
still occasionally walks down that path.
While I now know
that nothing outside of me
can truly give me safety.
Because the deeper disconnection
is always happening within myself.
It is always about the relationship
between me and me.
We are so conditioned
to search outside of ourselves for:
love,
worth,
belonging,
certainty,
fulfillment.
And in doing so,
we disconnect from our own inner guidance.
From our deeper nature.
From our connection to Source.
This is perhaps
our deepest human experience:
the experience of separation.
Separation from our True Divine Nature.
And from there comes
the feeling of being alone.
Feeling disconnected.
Feeling lost.
But trust me.
When you are feeling this way,
you are opening up
to something so beautiful.
So profound.
You are opening up
to the connection with You.
Your Higher Consciousness.
The lines are opening.
Your frequency is rising.
And when the frequency rises,
you are about to discover
that the connection itself
never truly disappeared.
What if life is trying to open you?
Returning inward
So the real movement
is only in one direction:
inward.
Not upward.
Not outward.
Inward.
Toward feeling.
Toward slowing down.
Toward listening.
Toward becoming aware of:
my nervous system,
my survival patterns,
my fears,
my conditioning,
my beliefs.
And slowly,
through presence,
awareness
and intention,
something started changing.
The more I stayed present with myself,
the more space opened.
And from within that space,
I started reconnecting
to something deeper.
A calmer intelligence.
A deeper knowing.
What I now call
my Higher Mind.
What changes then?
Life itself
does not suddenly become perfect.
What is perfect anyway?
But your relationship with life changes.
The more I released fear,
conditioning
and hyper-alertness from my system...
the softer life started to feel.
Not because challenges disappeared,
but because I no longer felt
completely identified with them.
There is more trust now.
More presence.
More alignment.
More flow.
And honestly,
my nervous system
can finally start relaxing again.
I now deeply feel
that this human life,
and this survival mechanism,
are not the whole story.
Not even close.
Something much bigger
moves through us.
Guides us.
Supports us.
And maybe this human journey
is really about
remembering that.
The way back to yourself often begins by slowing down enough to hear yourself again.
You are remembering
If you are currently feeling
that quiet longing...
If life feels like
it is shaking you up...
If old structures
no longer seem to fit...
Then trust me.
Even though it may not feel like fun,
you are to be congratulated.
You are opening.
You are remembering.
Continue exploring
Take your time.
Explore gently.
And enjoy discovering
more of who you truly are.
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